I’m just a college writer, living and learning every day.
Write in your questions/problems, and I’ll give you my take on it.
Because sometimes you just need to hear a different perspective.

 

Dear Honey,
I haven’t slept more than three or four hours in days. I’m running on fumes. Any ideas for how I can try and get a bit more rest?
-Anonymous

Dear Restless Anon,
I’m so sorry to hear you’re having trouble sleeping, because sleep is what keeps you running. As a college student you need all the energy you can get! I myself have experience with these restless nights you speak of. I have a sleep disorder that’s solved with a certain kind of sleep medication prescribed by my doctor. Not everyone who has trouble sleeping has a sleep disorder of course, but it is one option that you can explore. Getting seen by a doctor or nurse practitioner would help you either rule out this option or solve your problem all together. If you’re against the use of medication or something along those lines, there are a few other things I’ve heard that work. My close friend uses Melatonin whenever she’s having trouble falling asleep and says it works like a charm. Plus it’s all natural and you can pick it up at the local Rite Aid in town.  Exercising always makes me exhausted, so if none of this works; you could try exerting yourself at the gym. I wish you a long, hard sleep for the rest of your nights!

Dear Honey,
Because I will be commuting from UMF next year, it’s going to be hard for me in a way. I don’t want it to feel like High School again with them telling me what I can and can’t do and trying to control my life. I don’t know what I can do to make sure this doesn’t happen.
-Anonymous

Dear Commuting Anon,
Being a college student gives a sense of freedom that is undeniable. When you live on campus you get to be your own rule maker, your own boss in this new and exciting life you’ve chosen.  So I can see how you’re skeptical of living at home, and losing all this newly found freedom. I myself have struggled with the same problem during some of the long college breaks. My mom and I got into a huge fight one night this winter and I stormed out without telling her when I’d be back. Of course she was upset, because she’s used to me telling her where I’m going so she knows that I’m safe. At the time I was thinking “I’m an adult now, I can do what I want, when I want,” but later on, when I talked to her I realized a few things. I may be over 18, with a car and a job, but no matter how old I get, my mother will always worry about me. When I’m living under her roof, I’ve got to live by her rules—partly because she’s feeding and housing me, but mostly because I respect her and want to give her peace of mind.

Now I don’t know what kind of rules your parents set for you growing up, but there’s one thing I do know: those rules can’t stay exactly the same. You’re an adult now and your parents need to realize that. It’s all about communication. Talk to your family about the upcoming living situation and explain to them you want your freedom while keeping the peace at home. You’ll have to make sacrifices. You might need to tell them where you’re going, and do more chores than you used to. But that’s what adults do, they compromise. Next year will be a whole new kind of college experience, but I think you’ll come out of it learning a lot about yourself and your family. I wish you all the best next semester!