Welcome to “Some DAM good Advice,” the Farmington Flyers anonymous advice column. Each issue, we will be answering questions submitted by you—the students of UMF. No topic is off limits and submissions are greatly appreciated. If you wish to submit a question, please access the online form found on the Farmington Flyer facebook page or visit www.somedamgoodadvice.weebly.com under the “about” section.
Q: Even though I’m really looking forward to spring break, I’m bummed that I will be stuck in Maine and not traveling somewhere fun with warm weather and sandy beaches. What can I do to have fun while still in the state? Signed, Anonymous
A: That’s an awesome question! Surprisingly, there is a lot more to do here in Maine than you may think. Since spring is officially here and the weather has been getting warmer, that opens the door to a lot more activities. It may not be a warm beach, but Maine is full of prime opportunities for great hiking or snowshoeing on what little snow we have left. Break is also a great time to catch up on homework and most importantly – sleep; although that may not be the greatest way to spend a vacation, you will be relieved to be caught up when school starts again. Also, never underestimate the power of a quiet night in with a big bowl of popcorn, a great movie, and good friends. It doesn’t necessarily matter where you go for break, but what does matter is whom you surround yourself with. With good friends by your side, even the smallest things can turn into the greatest adventures.
Q: I started talking to this guy on Tinder, which isn’t typically the kind of thing that I would do, but I figured that I would give it a try. We recently met up to hang out and one thing led to another. We are both students here at UMF and I see him around campus all the time, but it’s awkward because I don’t really know if I want to be in a relationship, but I also don’t want to just be his side chick. What should I do? Signed, Tinder Troubles
A: Yikes! Well, Tinder Troubles, this is definitely a tricky situation. Nobody wants to be a second choice, so even if you don’t want a committed relationship, we think that it would be beneficial to talk with him. It may be awkward, but it will help you in the long run to just lay everything out on the table and explain how you are feeling. Who knows, maybe he is feeling the exact same way. Being honest with one another may open the door for a new type of relationship that you never thought of. Honesty will make you feel a lot better about the entire situation. Avoiding the problem altogether is not going to make it go away and it will leave you, and him, living in a state of awkwardness because you are going to frequently bump into one another—that’s definitely one of the downsides to a smaller campus.